School phobias and avoidance can be a frustrating problem for adults who attempt to talk to the child rationally about the problem. However, some school phobia problems will diminish over time, as the child becomes more engaged with activities and schoolmates. Parents can help children over the difficult periods with a few effective strategies:

• Talk to the children’s teacher and request a closer one-on-one interaction with the child.
• Discuss the child’s problem with the school nurse so that appropriate remedies can be taken during the day, enabling the child to return to class.
• Take the child in for a thorough medical examination to eliminate the possibility of physical problems.
• Have the child evaluated for learning problems.
• Set up play dates with classmates to establish closer friendships.
• Reassure the child about problems that may be occurring at home.
• Car pool with other children to encourage relationships.
• Read books with the child that encourage expression of feelings and conquering fears.
• Teach relaxation techniques to help deal with fears.
  • Some teachers utilize a corner of the room, or a separate room, where students may quietly work through any stress and anxiety. Discuss with the teacher(s) what methods they have or are willing to try. Just because other parents have not brought the issue up, does not mean other students aren’t also suffering.
• If necessary, take the child to a mental health counselor so they may privately and effectively work through their fears.

With these solutions, you can help your child overcome the tensions and anxieties that are becoming more common every year. Understanding and teaching effective coping skills can make a significant difference in a child’s ability to deal with these feelings.